The Anatomy of a Wedding Invitation: What to Include

Struggling to figure out exactly what you’ll need to put together the perfect wedding invitation suite? We’ve got you covered with a comprehensive list of what you’ll need and what to include when inviting those you love to share in your big day!

Here’s our list of what to include in your wedding invitation suite:

The Invitation

Wedding Invitation

Your wedding invitation is arguably the most important item your guests will receive, but many couples are often unsure what to include in their wedding invitation wording. It’s important to make sure you include the following information:

  • Names
  • Date and time
  • Location

Now, when it comes to including parents on the invitation, there’s often a lot of confusion around who to include and how to word it. Traditionally, weddings were hosted by the bride’s parents, which is why the wording was something along the lines of “Mr. and Mrs. Bride’s Parents request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter (Bride’s name) to (Groom’s name), son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom’s Parents.”

These days, if both parents are contributing to the cost of the wedding, both parents will be listed at the top of the invitation. If the couple is also contributing, or the parents don’t want to be listed on the wedding invitation, people often write “Together with their parents” at the top instead.

There is no wrong way to word a wedding invitation, so feel free to tailor it to whatever suits you as a couple. Just don’t forget the basics – who, what, when, and where – otherwise you may find yourselves receiving calls from some very confused wedding guests!

The Response Card

Wedding RSVP card
The response card is a note guests return to RSVP to your wedding. It helps you know whether they can make it or not, and often includes important information you’ll need to share with your vendors, such as for your guests’ meal choices.

Here’s what you’ll want to include:

  • M line: The M line can be a mystery to some guests. The ‘M’ simply stands for a person’s title (Mr., Miss, Mrs.). To help avoid any confusion, we often simply print “Name(s)” or “Attendee(s)” instead.
  • Accept or Decline: This is one of the most important parts of the response card. Many couples like to make this part a bit more playful with phrases such as “cheerfully accepts” or “regretfully declines”.
  • How many are coming: When inviting entire families, it’s often important to know how many adults and children will be attending. Sometimes people will say “_ of _ guests attending” and the couple will fill out the second box before sending out the invites in order to limit how many people can accept.
  • Meal choice: It’s important to differentiate between individual guests’ dining preferences by asking them to initial an entrée choice for each guest rather than just putting a number in the box. This prevents you from having to follow up with your guests about who wants the meat or the fish entrée.
  • RSVP by date: Make sure it’s clear to your guests when they need to return their response cards by. These cards will need to be addressed back to you before you mail them, and it is etiquette for the bride and groom to pre-stamp the envelope/postcard to cover postage costs.

Additional Insert

Beach Wedding Suite

Back when we started designing stationery, we used to include many different inserts, to invite guests to the reception, to spell out direction, to list accommodations.

Now wedding websites are filling in for many of these cards, housing this information online so not as much needs to be printed. Often, we have an insert with reception details, which is needed if your ceremony and reception are at different locations, and then a separate smaller insert, only about half the size of the reception insert, that simply states, “for additional wedding details, such as directions and accommodations, please visit (wedding website address)”.

Bonus: this is a great way to drive your guests to where they can find your registry information (on your website) without having to print anything about your registry, which is a big etiquette no-no.

The Envelope

Wedding Envelopes

The envelop may be the most important part as it pertains to your guest list, for who you write on the envelope is who is technically invited to your wedding.

If you are looking for an adult only event, be sure to just include Mr. and Mrs. John Smith. If children are invited, they would be added in second line underneath the parents, such as:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

Abigail and Michael

123 Main Street

Minneapolis. MN 55387

Don’t forget your return address on the back in case there are any issues with delivery. You’ll want to know about any invitations that didn’t make it to your guests!

Everything else:

Many couples order their initial wedding suite of invitations, response cards, envelopes, and inserts and then forget the day-of paper goods until the last minute. Make sure to keep in mind table numbers, menu cards, ceremony programs, as well as thank you cards following the big day.

Ready to get started?

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